Build up boundaries and do more with less energy, time, and connections.

Nesar Ahmad Siddiqui
3 min readOct 5, 2024

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Know how boundaries influence our lives the most.

Build up boundaries.
Take notice of why we are not ready to compromise. It says boundaries are at play. 
 
Any individual is free to choose how to lead a life, and herein it is also decided what to accept and what to deny as life unfolds. 
Boundaries include values, selecting paths for moving forward, in whose company to live, level of commitment, degree of empathy, orbits of functioning, priorities, defining needs, and alike. 
 
When I look back and mark how much time I spent on things that matter least in the long run of my life, I wonder about ambiguities in my boundaries more often. 
Ambiguities in the form of seeking validation from people around me frequently and accepting opinions without filtering them, I recall vividly. 
The power of "My boundaries are my strengths" is at times lost in the complexities and confusions all around—as my memories depict. 
Boundaries don’t mean denying the realities of situations. Rather, those are the forces that keep us moving forward even amidst the storms. 
A greater part of boundaries is formed by what we listen to and accept, what we are directed to do and we do, the way we are exposed to new situations, our backgrounds, what we read, what we notice, and above all, the belief systems we nurture. 
If someone is telling about me to the public, he is not a person of that kind. It means that person is aware of my boundaries. 
When I manage my provoking situations just by smiling, it is my boundary. 
I remove the lust from my life for many expanding luxuries; it is my boundaries that are helping me to explore what I propose to become. 
To follow the approach to pleasing people (though it does matter only for a short time) is a sign of having no boundaries. 
Saying "no" is certainly harsh on many occasions. But this approach has saved my time, energy, and attention to getting important things done—like reading, creativity, ideas, and correcting my flaws.
The component "no" is as essential in our daily functioning as "yes.". 
 
Boundaries help to make my relationship strong and trust deeper, as people are aware of my ways of dealing with them. 
Boundaries are mostly antidotes to bad emotions and high ego.
Boundaries usually eliminate the need for compromises as a line between my action and their expectations is drawn. 
 
Boundaries mean getting rid of unnecessary attachments to comforts, places, people, and specific needs. 
"It is necessary and even vital to set standards for your life and the people you allow in it," says Mandy Hale. 
The boundary is just a mark of our space. It never limits our actions. 
Be loud in saying: It is my space to exhibit my power of doing more. 
I am an individual and can’t lose myself just in the race if I follow the preferences of people even close to me. 
Keep space to breathe freely and think independently to safeguard uniqueness. Note that this space is emotional and personal, not geometrical. 
Boundaries don’t mean to live with rigidity. They are quite different. In rigidity, we fail to move forward. Boundaries are limiting nothing except our virtues like integrity, promises, creativity, helping others, taking self-care, and so forth. 
 
Boundaries are facilitating factors to grow and not limiting factors to prevent progress. 
 
Boundaries are not static. They change over time to be aligned with changing scenarios. It happens as we get a higher level of facts and more application of reasoning. 
Long ago, I started working on why I am less in my main activity, and in this process, I found my boundaries helpful beyond my imagination. 
 
Boundaries are tools to let go of what wrong happened in the past. So, we need boundaries to stay in the present.

RECAP

Boundaries enhance our firmness and standing in whatever we pursue. 
Boundaries evolve over time. 
Boundaries are reflected in our behaviors. 
Let boundaries be the compass of our lives. 
Boundaries stop us from complaining about the world.

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Nesar Ahmad Siddiqui
Nesar Ahmad Siddiqui

Written by Nesar Ahmad Siddiqui

Hungry to know, excited to share and be connected with you with my feelings, thoughts and ideas. Common words with uncommon impacts.

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