Emotions boil, and relationships coil.
We make a choice, we take a decision, we act, we react, we pause, we read the world—all are influenced by our emotions.
Emotions are sometimes highly supportive, sometimes hugely destructive, and sometimes we suppress them for certain reasons.
In today’s post, I shall discuss some aspects of negative emotions, when emotions rule our minds and we act as if nothing is wrong or we are equipped to face the consequences.
There are occasions when we feel insecure, betrayed, resentful, dishonoured, neglected, suppressed, and doubt our noticeable position, and all these things lead to exploding emotions.
Emotions are at their peak, and our actions do maximum harm to others as we look for revenge and force to regain respect and don’t hesitate to bombard or convey our feelings in any other form.
Every day we witness a dance of uncontrolled emotions around us, and even though we are not directly connected to the event, we feel sorry and start probing: why is it so?
The first and foremost victim of bad behaviour—an expression of bad emotions—is our relationships with family, friends, coworkers, people close to us, or even strangers. We get angry, we shout, we rebuke, we abuse, we grieve, and we allow the emotions to touch the lowest so that the target of a hit, insult, or bodily damage is achieved.
The good news is that negative emotions are controllable to the maximum extent, provided we are aware of them and willing to change our behaviour.
The more you can control your emotions, the more effective you will be in all areas of your life, says Brian Tracy.
There are ways to let go of negative emotions like stress, fear, loss of image, financial loss, loss of control, and other bad feelings.
1. When any issue of anger crops up, we must instantly think that there are many ways to deal with it. Think about alternatives. Find other ways of handling the issues. Nip the issue in the bud.
2. We can keep the uncomfortable issue on hold. Once in a while, we get a chance to respond in a wise manner. There is no need for immediate, high-powered reactions.
3. Just change the place or change the topic, depending on the situation. Wait for the next suitable moment to reply in an effective way.
4. Reconciliation by someone who knows both sides would work well to defuse the escalation at that point in time.
5. After a day or two, an angry person must return to the awkward situation in order to understand his or her own flaws. This may help to avoid repeating the strange behaviour in the future.
6. Both sides get a chance to think that destroying relationships that take years to establish and are more valuable than money, profit, or position cannot be appreciated by any standard of human behavior.
7. We must know that a war of words ends in frustration and more bitterness. We all know that words are more painful than wounds. Words, once internalised, are never wiped out.
8. Even highly intelligent people forget manners and etiquette when they are emotionally charged.
9. Sorry loses its impact when relationships are damaged. We are accustomed to saying sorry once something wrong happens, but it serves as a formality and nothing more.
10. We fight when we allow prejudices to persist in our minds. See that those prejudices are filtered before something wrong happens.
11. When one side keeps themselves in silent mode for the time being, matters fail to take an ugly turn.
12. We must keep in mind that losing a debate is not the end of everything. Another occasion is sure to reappear.
13. Expressing emotions is good for both mental and physical health. What is important is the selection of words, facial expression, body language, respecting occasions, and the technique of humour, even in harsh conditions.
14. At times, emotions boil over because of wrong interpretations, misinformation, or a play of tricks by third parties who are jealous of smooth relationships.
15. We must remember that if we are not wrong, even mischievous acts will fail, provided we have patience and tolerance when displaying ourselves.
Not a single moment is free from emotions. It is upon us to control unwanted emotions and give positive emotions significant space in our minds.
You don’t need strength to let go of something. What you really need is understanding, says Guy Finley.
Changing from bad to good emotions is a long-term exercise, but it is certainly wonderful.
