Engaging in an uneasy exchange of views.
We all like soft talk. We all want to talk about points where both sides agree without arguments. Smooth sailing is a good idea, but it must not come at the cost of ignoring the roots of the consequences we are discussing. In any social discussion, we focus on diseases and not on causal organisms or preventive measures. A simple preventive measure could save the lives of millions of people. 
Engaging on uncomfortable social issues is more difficult than negotiation. In negotiation, both sides are aware of the matter, and it works on the principle of "give and take," "keeping the aims of the group or organisation intact.
 Take a deep rooted problem as an example. 
Low education in non-urban areas is an uneasy issue, and it becomes a hot topic when we keep female education at the centre. The individuals finding roles for women in the home will not agree to provide them opportunities to unfold their strengths and participate in challenging activities demanding high-grade skills and exposures.
 In any such debate, it is not important to prove who is right or wrong. When both sides sit together to discern what is possible, discussion moves to finding the basic threads in the whole fabric, which are hidden because of the multicoloring of threads and the design of the fabric. When the basic thread is raising the awareness of both males and females, we get some solutions in spite of the colouring of values, beliefs, customs, social strata, and other related issues, to which both males and females belong.
 Finding similarities in the vast array of dissimilarities is indeed a hard task but it gives more satisfaction if something is done . No correction happens in any society in one attempt. It takes years to delete myths and unsound theories. Our role is to continue our efforts despite setbacks and rejections from time to time.
Most of the time, the issue remains unresolved. It is not a deadlock. Enging in vexing issues is a process. We come to know divergent views. We look at things in different perspectives. We move from the windows of narrowness to the doors of the demand of people in a larger context. 
 Coercion is the worst tool to make different groups agree with our viewpoints. It never lasts long. 
 People are afraid of engaging in complex issues, assuming strain and unnecessary distance in relationships. It is a bad idea. Many faults in our minds can not be removed when we are not ready to pay for them. When our thinking is defective, we can’t build a strong and progressive society. Let us pay the price for it. It is a real effort for social causes.