Expanding understanding will wipe out misunderstandings.
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Life evolves when we solve problems.
Facing problems adds to our experience and expands our understanding.
Problems are to be addressed, but the majority of us lack this skill. It is a soft skill. It is learned.
We rarely live alone or do something alone. We are related to other people in some way or another in a family, organization, society, or somewhere else. So, we live in many sorts of relationships simultaneously.
Understanding is the glue of relationships. The vacuum in understanding is a threat to peaceful living. This spoils the beauty of living, working, or even travelling together.
We think differently; we interpret happenings not in the same way; we intend freedom of varying scale; and we behave unexpectedly. Because no two brains are the same.
Most of the time, we react and use all our senses to tell the other side that things are not acceptable. Though situations demand that we pause and explore what is most feasible,
There are some common observations about how the level of understanding goes up and down in our affairs, from home to office to friends to the unknown.
■ In many instances, we behave as if we are flawless.
■ Emotions, prejudices, and egos are factors in our dealing with all situations at all times. When we lose control of these factors, things are most likely to go in the wrong direction with a bad ending.
■ When there is no space for tolerance, we get angry about any issue. It seems that "the other side" is acting against my design of things every time.
■ Understanding is not a one-day, one-way process. It comes with aggregating the pros and cons of events and reactions over a considerable period.
"A fool can know. The point is to understand." Albert Einstein
■ Human behaviour is guided by reasons, which may be exact or just superficial.
■ When both sides are new entrants in a scenario like a job, marriage, or new activity, understanding gets a chance to grow. Nevertheless, improper handling, leading to misunderstandings, is the greatest impediment, as seen in many instances.
■ When both sides work on a common purpose and there is nothing like a personal agenda, understanding enriches.
■ A shared ambition works as a catalyst to promote conducive environments.
■ The majority are experts in assuming many things before something occurs. These theories damage the process of sound understanding.
■ In most cases, we need to put more effort into gathering details and presenting realities rather than building biases and hate.
■ When there is no self-analysis, there is no understanding.
■ Many negative feelings are unfounded. Many narratives are to be moulded to fit the present day’s requirements.
■ Individuals lacking something in themselves are expecting these traits in others. It normally leads to conflicts and erosion in relationships.
We may take a highly visible example. We count much on outside jobs but have the least regard for managing cooking, cleaning, and the readiness of A to Z at home by the homemaker. This is a ground of clash, though this design of a small family is supposed to be hassle-free.
■ It is a misunderstanding that you are everything in your stories. Without a doubt, other players in your life are equally important.
■ Remember, when a clear part of the behaviour of one individual matches the clear behaviour of another individual, it binds them. Thus, most parts of behaviours remain apart without harming the foundation of relations. Say one member of a family is food-savvy while another’s focus is punctuality; even then, the relationship is sustained.
■ When we listen to others' points of view, the issue is half resolved.
■ In any relationship, trust is supreme. Excuses weaken trust. Conditional behaviour works against the trust.
■ All your actions have ripple effects, for which you may not draw maps. Here, you have to think before you leap.
■ When we take things for granted, the chances of complaining increase.
■ Expressing appreciation for others is a powerful source of bonding.
■ Your response in difficult situations is a measure of your understanding.
■ You must learn the art of disagreeing without breaking the flow of forward thinking.
■ Grievances happen but don’t allow them to stay in your mind. Recall the merits of those people, who are, by the way, the source of grievances at this moment. This tool helps erase grievances.
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Let our free and fair communication bridge the gaps in understanding.
Acceptance, tolerance, appreciation, and focusing on commonalities are the keys to strengthening togetherness.
And finally, understanding can be rehashed.
