Learn to live with our feelings.
Once we realise that we are blessed, our suffering is reduced. It is a great life skill, but many of us are ignorant about it. This skill can be nurtured through learning, unlearning, and raising our awareness on a daily basis. Our feelings are thoroughly linked to our thought processes. When we are narrow in our thinking, we feel more odds all around. We see darkness in all our endeavours before tracing any merits.
Thus, we should develop the habit of looking at what we have or do not have. For this, we have to have our senses fully active and absorbing. Eventually, we feel excited, depressed, happy, and sorrowful as the episodes unfold. These feelings are internal, but they force us to act, withdraw, interfere, be accountable, or prefer evading them in our moment-to-moment affairs.
In general, we are more human when we cultivate true and realistic feelings. Feelings are to be expressed, not suppressed. Certainly, we should learn how and when to express our feelings. The same feeling may be expressed in loud and hurtful words by one person but in soft, suitable words by another individual. It makes the matter quite different. At times, body language says more than words.
Being internal, our feelings are not sufficiently noticed by others. People look at our smiling faces and tears in our eyes, listen to our voices, and read our body language just to relate it to our feelings. It may be correct or incorrect. We have to not bother too much about our labelling by the outside world. Rather, we have to regulate our feelings to a greater extent, particularly on the basis of our health, support, values, opportunity, and other positive factors.
Feelings are an inseparable part of our lives. For the same injury, the amount of pain varies from person to person. It depends on how we have evolved to express our feelings. In the same situation, one is hopeful and another is hopeless. This is a point where we can manage our feelings to protect ourselves from desperation.
Empathy is a feeling. It connects our lives with the living conditions of others. When we lack empathy, we are doing quite the opposite. We humans are better than other creatures, fundamentally, on the strength of our feelings.
Once we lose, we feel frustrated. There are people who see it as an opportunity to do it better. Incidence is one, but feeling makes one person down and another up.
It is not easy, but people have the power to control their feelings through long-term practises. If something goes wrong, we must examine why it happened so as to eliminate it on subsequent occasions.
In the absence of positive feelings, we can’t lead a good life.