Life oscillates when wrongs happen.
It is a natural flow, but I keep asking why this happens despite innocence.
Like many, I hate disturbing situations. But they (awkwardness) are regular visitors. They are, wherever I am. When I recall my days in my 20s, 30s, and beyond, I admit that errors, omissions, and setbacks have given me opportunities to grow, but still I get perturbed when something abnormal and troublesome happens.
Habitually, I prefer to play it safe. I drive vehicles carefully. I take all precautions in cold and hot climates. I keep greediness in check. I keep busy in fulfilling my responsibility. I believe in the beauties of coexistence. Even then, many wrong things happen at regular intervals.
In common terms, they are games in human lives.
I read stories of people, how much they have paid (even lost their lives) to be distinguished in their fields. I share those stories with people around me.
But I myself take a long time in getting sufficient strengths to face adversities. I get shocked. I lose track of thinking the right way.
Going into more detail, I take my own life as a vast laboratory and believe that all days come with fresh equations and experiments. In my own assessment, I am getting better at facing the challenges with changing of calendars or turning the pages of a calendar, but it is not up to the stage of welcoming challenges wholeheartedly—bothering nothing.
I know—the pivotal is a coping mechanism. To me, this is a process and not an algebraic equation. It differs from situation to situation and person to person.
The real test happens when I hold the rope of untoward myself.
Indeed! This experience supplies more strengths to me than many books on managing thoughts and emotions. Studies suggest that folks are more disturbed in the similar twists and turns. Many succumb.
I feel better because of taking lessons from my passing through tough times.
My coping mechanism is to internalize these words:"crisis is the foundation of fresh shoots of growth" I read these words again and again.
The seed supports my understanding that it deshapes itself while allowing the emergence of a new plant.
As a person, one has to play many roles, full of pains and pleasures. Peace is not guaranteed to anyone irrespective of their might.
With long practice, I am not placing myself in "boxes of victims," even though people have different perspectives about the episodes.
When riding a bicycle against the strong opposite wind, it was taking double the time to reach my school. So I was adjusting my time accordingly to be there on time.
This formula I am applying in my adulthood too to face hostile winds of any sort.
Further, I consider something more to neutralize the impact of bad situations.
■ We can’t stop bad days from occurring.
■ We have to prepare ourselves to face what comes in the way moving forward.
■ It is not a crisis but a challenge. It seems theoretical, but humans have the power to make it practical.
■ I hasten to repeat that it is time to identify opportunities to get more strengths—not to drown in rushing waters.
■ It is fear that is the source of losing confidence. That fear is to be addressed even if it is costly.
■ Confidence is not an inborn trait. It starts coming when we move for the first time to get experience. Next, confidence grows gradually when we insist on taking risks of fall and facing consequences.
■ Deriving power from panicky situations is tricky. The remedies lie in thinking a little differently from the crowd.
■ When fear is less, we get more from the disturbances. ■ We have to approve everything in life, including setbacks.
Key points:
▪︎Take lessons from what went wrong and be ready to counter harshness ahead.
▪︎Wisdom never grows while keeping moving on known tracks. And wisdom tells what is right.
▪︎Learn to see the beauty even under messy conditions. Keep challenging perspectives and continue learning from sundry conditions to move up.
▪︎ It is my life, and it is my responsibility.
