Patience prevails, while impatience derails.
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Patience is a good therapy to advise but hard to practice. Every day we hear, "Keep patience," since the start of life, but we don’t take it seriously. By nature, humans focus on results and get perturbed when the process is long, the path is thorny, or the possibility of failure is high. There are people who enjoy the process and do not jump to conclusions. It means they have patience.
We cite examples of trees bearing fruit after four or five years, changing seasons hot and cold per quarter, taking more than two decades to complete education before starting performing lives, and so on. All these are examples of patience, but they remain academic and are not usable to meet living conditions when crises strike.
There are stories where patience has paid rich dividends, but we are not ready to accept them. We take them as an exception. A Chinese proverb comes to mind that says:
"One moment of patience may ward off a great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life ".
Think about the power of the above saying. All of us read stories of mishaps every day simply because sufferers were hurrying. We are in queue, and though we may miss the target, it is patience. We are ignoring traffic rules as nobody is guarding. Something wrong is happening because of impatience.
There are mistakes, errors, setbacks, waiting, confusion, and vagueness in all spheres of our endeavour, and there is no option better than patience in those circumstances.
"Two things define you: your patience when you have nothing, and your attitude when you have everything ". George Bernard Shaw
Patience must not be measured in terms of time. It may be too long, have more repeats, or be longer than normal, but it is our behaviour during that waiting time that measures our patience.
In many instances, there are elements of shame, a dent in the image, hopelessness, fake allegations, or something more humiliating. It is never easy to bear all the brunt, but patience has been found to be a great weapon to save us in these dark times.
Impatience has always led us to lose the game or sustain a major blow. Impatience makes us victims only when we deny looking at other alternatives. In case there is no option at that moment, we must tell ourselves that the sky is not going to fall. We may have patience. It happened because of short cuts and not following the details. We have the opportunity to raise our bar and see what is possible now. A loss occurred, but it is not a dead end.
Patience is like a load that is to be unloaded, but it must be at the right time and in the proper manner. If we learn how to keep calm and free from trauma during setbacks, the battle is won. Maintaining calm in spite of the winds against us is a skill.
There is the possibility of restarting our business, studying for an exam, changing careers, or doing something new, but living with grief makes this change extremely difficult. This is a kind of suffering without patience. Patience revives our courage and opens the paths of reajustment in the changed scenario. So we need to practice patience to look at things with more clarity and imagination.
"Have patience. All things are difficult before they become easy" . Saadi
Many decisions in our lives are reversible. But we assume we can’t do anything now. With patience, we ponder and, if necessary, reverse our decisions.
When in trouble, we are afraid of more trouble. It is a loss of faith, and we stay in darkness. In the sequence of nature, we see day and night, rainy days and sunny days, birds and animals taking steps for survival, but we overlook everything, assuming our crisis is never-ending. It is a loss of faith in how systems operate. The remedy is to practice patience.
Patience never betrays. Finally, we gain when we do not allow despair to dominate.
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Patience is one of the most powerful traits human beings may possess, but many are ignorant, and only a few have made the best use of it and made their lives exemplary.
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