People endorsing you every time for everything provides less space to grow.
It is time to ponder whether you need to listen to annoying voices or not.
We love music and hate noises. We have been made to grow with such feelings. Nothing wrong.
Considering the ups and downs in my life, I now admit that some noises were not bad as they have helped to shape the genuine course of my life.
An elder was regularly chasing children, playing in the open on hot days, at the wrong time. I was one of them. We felt annoyed initially but later corrected ourselves to obey the rules of reading and playing times, particularly on off days.
To evade, to escape, to deny, to defy, and such other attitudes are common that make our lives unworthy. It may be a little late, but for sure.
While reflecting on those elements of escapism, a thought came to mind: Has listening to what opponents say, at times, brightened our future? Is it a life hack?
In the cover of convenience:
For most of us, our first safety is to escape, and our second safety line is to negate. The third is to fight.
Reality is:
We are all surrounded by people who like us and dislike us. We can’t make a fast change.
What normally happens is that we agree with people who are good in our rating on the basis that their values are in alignment with what we value.
It is fine to be surrounded by good people, but it is not without error. It is established that living with the same set of affirmers, we remain in the dark on many fronts.
In extremes, it is a blunder.
When you move to new situations, for any reason, you attempt to create a group of reliable people, as you did before. You have evolved with a mindset to be with like-minded people primarily to dilute insecurity.
Now the point is what is wrong with it. To some extent, the answer lies in this quote.
"A successful man can lay a firm foundation with the bricks others have thrown at him." David Brinkley
An unsuccessful man throws back those bricks at opponents or redirects bricks to rubbish.
Your friends, mostly unknowingly, don’t allow you to do your math to encounter threats. Possibly you spot no danger in living, and you enjoy living with praise alone.
You are always assuming smart in all your decisions and actions. You have no guts to listen to the dissenting voices of people nearby or in faraway places.
While looking at the roles of rivals, I got a chance to glance at what Michael Corleone has said: keep your friends close but your enemies closer.
On the surface, this narrative seems absurd. Going in deep, it reveals the meaning of the enemy’s voices.
Listening to enemies' voices is never a weakness. Rather, it raises fingers at the real faults that need to be addressed first.
Nobody can always be perfect in all his decisions and actions.
Your friends rarely elaborate on the consequences of a decision.
"The quality of your life is built on the quality of your decisions." Wesam Fawzi
In any decision, you ignore the voices of people differing from yours. You evaluate everything as pro and pro, never reaching to the points of cons.
All actions have reactions. When you fail to gauge the impact of your actions, it is a grave error. You might have realized the vacuum that can be filled by listening to others' voices, but you just ignore them.
At the core of not venturing to listen to others is ego and a false feeling of supremacy.
Even a family fails where ego dances. If family members are silent, it is an indication of the advent of storms. It is a process. It takes time but ends with the structure being demolished.
Fraternity matters in all cultures. A variety of opinions need to be reconciled. If rejection happens, grievances are most likely to grow equally.
A wise person knows how to balance between winds of favor and waves of against.
