Shallowness breeds intolerance, fear, and, finally, chaos.
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All are claiming they know things better than others, and so they impose their views or profoundly wish to do so. This is the main reason for conflicts and clashes in a family, group, society, or other higher form of being together since the beginning of human existence.
History is full of clashes because both sides were claiming to be "right.". I think the scenario is not likely to transform substantially, even if we get equipped with far better modes of lifestyle.
Simply watch any scenario to see people fighting on shallow ground. When we talk about facts, ideas, applications, variations, reports, and studies, any matter is not likely to end in chaos in the majority of cases.
In some flare-up cases, I got into the matter deeper and deeper and found that the reason for clashes was largely ignorance on both sides and resistance to come to common ground despite open possibilities. Hence, I am writing this article for your scrutiny.
Based on my experiences, close observations, and digging into the matter, I have researched some consistent features that lead to minor to major misunderstandings among people, irrespective of class, culture, creed, and controversy.
● We like to be superior, even if we are simply theoretical.
● We are not interested in gathering details on the matter. We prefer to say against or in favor of something, not to add value in discussion but to suppress the realities.
● It is a fashion to keep the discussion two-polar, that is, right and wrong, noble and evil, or superior and inferior. There are so many dots in between good and bad, but who is bothering to connect those dots? The answer is neither yes nor no, but somewhere else. It needs application of mind—a powerful weapon that exits with you, me, and them.
● We have been taught "winning is everything," though it is a fully a misconception. There is no space to argue to win in all situations, specifically those that are distantly related to us.
We all know that someone is a good actor on screen but not at all good in their personal life. The person is sending a valid message to the world, but in application, the person is shallow.
●Mostly, we compare wrongly. Take an example:. A nurse is not less important than a doctor from the patient’s point of view. They serve the patient in their own way. It is an arrangement to run the show. In service, they are equal, but they are inequal in status and perks. The remedy is to accept it and go ahead. No argument.
●We do most of our jobs on the basis of assumptions. It is helpful when positive, but worse when negative. Someone is saying that a historical place or a particular brand is not good. It is an assumption without examining the issues in detail.
● Nothing is good or bad. Our thinking classifies anything to suit our own purpose. The problem lies in our classification, not in the entity we classify.
● We are not ready to unlearn what has been learned in the early stages, when exposure was extremely limited.
● We have complaints about high temperatures, low temperatures, dryness, excessive humidity, floods, and droughts, as if we are the only creatures on this earth. Just think for a moment. Is there any sense in complaining about everything? Is it not ridiculous to make complaining a tool of time pass?
● We have left behind the idea of counting our blessings, as they are freely available. Technology has added many things to accelerate our efficiency and global accessibility, but we count curses in everything.
● In fact, we are biased when we deny listening to others.
● We are identity-driven. We attribute our identity to inheritance, ideology, history, and geography. To me, it is the only ability and the application of ability that makes a person widely acceptable and memorable for centuries.
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Let us expand our horizons of thinking and focus on similarities rather than dissimilarities. Dissimilarities are for some purpose that is to be respected, not for denial.
As we work on our ignorance, life seems to be getting closer to peace and coexistence.
At least we can minimize the areas of conflict, improving our perspectives and insights, even if the other side is reluctant to change.
