Silence is more powerful than speaking, but how?
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Speaking is necessary to know our points of view on particular issues. It is an essential part of our conversation, negotiations, debate, planning, programs, and dealing with daily activities at home, business, professional, consultation, shopping, travelling, and so forth.
Studies suggest that in all situations, speaking just to speak does more damage than coming to some resolutions. Most people come to the defence without pondering how to extract the facts. They take it personally, though the purpose is to ameliorate the conditions.
There are occasions when silence prevents conditioning from taking ugly turns. Silence is not easy to practice, but it is certainly rewarding. In that way, the other side fails to make out what is to be done next. In silence, there is time to have a deep thought, particularly on the consequences of any action. Feelings are inside, but when transformed into words, people are free to interpret them as they wish. Many times, situations are manipulated by citing our words.
It is difficult to keep our feelings in silent mode, even for some days, but it works wonders. Expressing views at the right time makes bad conditions good for all.
We have been taught that all actions have reactions. Now, life has taught us that taking time to express our feelings or insights is a sign of maturity. It is fundamental to creating a win-win scenario. We all play the game of lose, win, or lose every day, and very few of us know how to make the most of the given circumstances. Reactions are likely to derail even our good intentions, particularly if we react just to suppress others' views.
Take a few baseline examples. There are some demands for kids that can’t be fulfilled instantly for valid reasons. We keep silent, or we buy time, saying we will look into it. We face some unexpected awkwardness in group meetings that is not genuine; we prefer not to react, and matters come and go. Elders say something outdated; we listen to forget. Elders understand our stand, and the issue ends.
Most of the time, we debate what is right or wrong, perfect or imperfect, genuine or absurd, helpful or damaging, or something like that. We use all our tools to come to some one-sided conclusions. Finally, some conclusions are not acceptable to all participants. There was no cheerful ending. In reality, there is no authenticity or consensus other than the application of authority.
A wise person keeps away from such things where the purpose is to win arguments. It serves no one. Rather, it creates subgroups under groups. Understanding turns into grievances and leads to conflicts.
It is said that what to say is a function of knowledge, but when to say it is a sign of maturity. For speaking, we need words, while in silence, we apply inside forces to control ourselves and let our anger die inside.
We must speak, but we must learn to use fewer words that are well-caught by the listeners. At times, two or three words are stronger than what others struggle to say in hundreds of words.
Let us elevate to select powerful words in our speaking. It saves time and energy for all.
Talks based on facts and figures are more fruitful than those based on rigidity and unsound assumptions. When we are inclined to learn from all that comes our way, the chances of arguments shrink. We listen silently. We have a choice to accept or reject what is fed to us. Resolving one issue is not the end. Other issues are in the queue. This is called the ups and downs we all face in our lives.
The takeaway is that speaking and silence must be given adequate space while conveying something, but keep them in order not to jumble.