Transforming ourselves is not an uphill task.
What we intend to change are our habits, attitudes, resistance, fears, networking, feelings of victimisation, and a series of other traits that are holding us back and forcing us to be stuck in a groove. We are not paying adequate attention to either our strengths or weaknesses. We believe our personal fundamentals are not changeable.
We know that some kind of power makes a static vehicle move and accelerate. We have to search for our own variety of powers, like software in our brain (hardware), to move us, to activate us, and to achieve some goals or purpose.
Then, how to effect a change in our present position is a straight question.
First, be ready to change. Here, the majority of us are failing again and again. We are okay with who we are, what we have learned, or obeying the given conditions fully.
Second, take a small thing to change, like going to bed on time, if it is fluctuating.
Third, take a hard habit to modify, like reading some pages of a book of our choice every day, if reading is stopped after getting degrees. Start today.
Fourth, prescribe a deadline for achieving a habit, like losing one tenth of our weight in a year if we are overweight. Be punctual to attend office or other assignments if we are not punctual by now.
Fifth, a few other habits that are pulling us back are transformed annually or in a shorter time. It is to be selected individually. There is a long list of bad habits, even among highly performing individuals.
Sixth, now strike on the angle of looking at things through the lens of negativity. It is more than a disease for which there are no pills on the market, but it is perfectly within our power to cut them bit by bit.
Seventh, stop playing the victim card, even if forces are working against our growth and prosperity. No power can push anyone back when one decides to go ahead. We can change the strategy, but not the destination.
Eighth, tell ourselves, "We are born to conquer," several times in a day, particularly at moments of toughness and darkness.
Any person can plan to change depending on their own habits, attitudes, and environments. There is not a fixed pattern or formula to suit all and sundry.
Do our own work as much as possible. We are asking someone to provide a glass of water when we reach home from the office. Check why? Can we modify it when movement is good for health?
When free from engagement, we just pass time on mobile, talk with friends on futile topics, or feel bored. Why ? Can we not do something productive? In fact, we have never thought about such changes. Can we agree?
Even if we are financially independent, we should engage in some kind of creative work. It is feasible if we cultivate the habit of asking ourselves what we have done or learned today. Today means 1440 minutes to consume as we wish.
Indeed, all individuals live with some values and principles, irrespective of their faiths or cultures. They evolve as we grow in a particular setting. They also need to be examined and reexamined to determine whether those values or principles have some essence or are just being carried around senselessly.
We have developed attitudes from childhood on. We have formed habits of sleeping, getting fresh, dressing up, attending school, and keeping books messy or orderly before knowing the purpose of what we do. We obey the orders of parents and teachers, and those things become part of our behaviour.
What we can create, we can destroy. A child creates a figure in the sand and levels it before leaving the place, as the purpose is achieved. All our habits, attitudes, and feelings are amenable.
Again, remember that it is upon us to decide what is to be changed. Be aware of our own good and bad habits. Once a bad habit is deleted, it is actually replaced by a good one through the process itself.
What we have created has made us who we are. Any attempt to make ourselves better is possible only when we transform our habits, keep learning something new every day, and are informed of events in and around us as indispensable ingredients of our lives.