Triggers to magnify your tussles in life. 
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When you are constantly okay with who you are, then your priorities are written in stone. In such cases, there are a minimum of tussles in life. You are not taking advantage of tussles. You are unaware that a tussle arises to modify your priorities. 
I have closely observed that we face tussles when we keep ourselves changing. Let it be clarified ab initio that tussles come in different forms from moment to moment. 
Our tussles lead to our likings and dislikes, or, as we can say, our priorities. 
Priorities are the foundations of lowness and highness in the lives of all of us.
Looking at all these variations, the troubling questions that persist in my mind are:
1. How does priority evolve?
2. Why do people resist shifting their priorities?
For point no. 1, I went back to examine the lifestyle of known youths in parallel to my stage in terms of schooling, background, and social status. 
In the early phase of my life, I have seen a person boasting himself in every matter at the cost of his career just to end everything in frustration. 
I have seen another person glued to friendship, gaining nothing from the forwardness of friends. 
In another youth, there was a feeling that he knew things better than others, but his dreams of leadership ended in nothing. 
The above three cases of my schooling time were sufficient to push me to think about the ins and outs of priorities. I tried to examine what things in them were wrong.
□ The passion for being greater started growing in childhood, bypassing personal growth. They were always focusing on the strengths and qualities of others without knowing the stages they had passed through. 
□ They believed in level-jumping on the social spectrum. They were in a hurry for fame and adopted the technique of shortcuts in all affairs. 
□ They started noticing the brightness in others in the way someone looks at the tips of an iceberg, not the whole of it. 
□ They were looking at outcomes minus the process in all glitters. They didn’t understand how a piece of coal became a diamond.
□. They were eager to stand out as if they would be great just by sitting beside high profiles. 
 □ Their same priorities continued until they were spoiled. They never attempted to change the gear of priorities. 
"The wisdom of life consists in the elimination of non-essentials." Lin Yutang
Now coming to point no. 2, my observations are: 
■ They were killing their time to please friends and men of influence. 
■ They were shifting their important tasks to others, missing the opportunity for greatness. 
■ They were never realizing their hollowness. 
■ They had too many expectations from men of high standards. 
Taking whole scenarios into consideration, I infer that the following triggers can work to effect changes in the desired direction: 
☆ In any situation, let us decide to work on personal strength consistently. 
☆ We must desist from copying others without application of mind. 
☆ There is no shortcut to achieving greatness. 
☆ We are competent to grow in any field of choice. We are born to grow. We must not be guided by high emotions every time. 
☆ Don’t dismiss the fact that people in high positions have gone through many tests and trials, invariably. 
☆ Never blur the difference between essentials and non-essentials. 
In a few words: 
Tussles are boons that create opportunities to go forward. They provide moments to set priorities. They create space for corrections. 
Let the realities prevail over our blunt emotions.