Turn your dislikes into pillars of worthy growth.
Inquire into the reasons, and convert repulsion into attraction.
Likings and dislikings are the foundations of our going forward or backward. They evolve and frame our actions, emotions, and principles.
We rarely challenge how we behave, our attitudes, and our mindsets.
We are reluctant to question our lifestyles, food habits, beliefs, maturity, and abilities.
In most cases, my simple answer is "I like it.". It is my trait. The truth is, it is without any scrutiny, year after year.
In case of dislikes, we simply state that it is so. We play the game of hating and loving regarding people, places, principles, performances, pathways, and many other fronts every time.
Yes, we can’t delete all dislikes, but we can scrutinize them to find rays of likings.
In most cases, the reasonings for disliking are misinformation, old-designed narratives, misinterpretation, rumours, and highlights of imperfections.
As the area of dislike grows, the spaces for goodness shrink.
It is surely unwise to waste our days exchanging dislikes when life demands to be empathetic and passionate.
Eventually, this situation forced me to reframe myself to get rid of the burden of hatred, prejudices, envy, and enmity.
I decided to turn dislikes into likings as much as possible, believing this quote as undeniable:
"Everything has its beauty, but not everyone sees it." Andy Warhol
● I accepted people and situations for what they are.
There is no better option than to live together.
I can’t change my neighbor, so diminish conflicts and find clues for mutual security and support.
● In place of cursing, I worked on changing my perspectives.
This intention has changed my many worries into wonders.
The following adage of Abraham Maslow gave me the unique strength to weigh differently what comes to my life daily.
"Work is that which you dislike doing but perform for the sake of external rewards. At school, this takes the form of grades. In society, it means money status and privilege."
● I check myself to ascertain whether I am absurdly sensitive.
I try my best to avoid impulsive conclusions.
I am not in the habit of blaming outsiders for everything wrong in my life.
Mostly we are influenced by the opinions of others and what society imposes.
● I have learned that listening makes many points clear and helps to eradicate dislikes.
I listen to the views of opponents more responsibly than like-minded fellows.
● I avoid making comparisons to leave no space for feeling superb or bad.
● Like many people, I believe that life is more than financial, social, and security needs. It has prompted me to know more about life and how to enhance the range of coexistence.
I admit that a person is free to hate me. Responding with hate is a sign of my stupidity. I did something good over time to prove that he was wrong in his assessment.
I pay little attention to what happened decades ago and divert myself to devise something of common interest.
Forgiveness is a powerful tool to rejuvenate and start living without biases. I apply it to unload myself from hatred.
● I classify my background and upbringing as my strengths that help me to be inclusive in my life.
● It is understanding that is a force to change things from undesirable to desirable.
Positivity breeds likings on larger scales. It is possible only when we decide to embrace it. Negativity moves ten times faster than positivity, as I have experienced.
