What we feel is seldom expressed exactly in words.
It is great work we are doing, moment by moment, but many times we miss noticing the gap between what we felt and what we said. We feel about everything and every moment; sometimes we express them through our words, sometimes we suppress them, and occasionally we are too harsh or too soft. So gaps persist, which become sources of confusion, conflicts, and controversies.
 Feelings happen. When bad feelings accumulate, we bombard them with words and convert them into worse ones. In this process, bitterness dominates and realities hide. Feeling is a strong and vast trait of the human race. We can’t survive without feelings—good or bad, heavy or shallow, closeness or distance, helping or disturbing.
Connecting our feelings with our expression through speaking or writing is hard work. Feelings are intangible, but our expressions are tangible. People count our expressions, not our genuine or grey feelings. On many occasions, we try to bridge the gap between words and feelings, but the damage is seldom restored.
For the same set of words, there are varying explanations. When words are read in context, matters get clarified to a greater extent. In the majority of cases, context is not known, and therefore the gap between what was intended and what was really said widens.
So the selection of words matters. At times, one sentence is enough to tell the whole story. But hardly any of us know this art of saying The majority say hundreds of words without any core to grasp.
Between our feelings and words, body language works as a bridge. Often, without saying a word, body language tells the truth about our feelings. The mother just looks at the kid, and the kid keeps the books in order. It is body language, or the language of the eye, that plays its role. We must work on shaping our body language to minimise the gaps between our intentions and how we express them.
Our feelings are not final in all situations. It is our inner talk that feeds our feelings. When we absorb negativity from our surroundings, our self-talk can’t be positive. We may nurture our feelings to bypass negativity and grab positivity as much as possible.
When we feel good, we express ourselves well, and feel-good factors are strengthened. It needs to be practised as many times as we can.
We express our anger first and our regret later. It happens because our bad feelings get space to incubate and hatch in the form of anger. Regret is simply fixing broken glass in a mirror. Saying sorry partially eliminates the damage in relationships, the workplace, trust, and building the right image.
When we are too soft in our words, the message is not explicit. When we are too harsh, things get complicated and are often misinterpreted. So neither be excessively soft nor furious, and practise being in between the two extremes.
Our feelings determine our behaviours. Our behaviour has two components: words and deeds. Select appropriate words to suit the occasion without diluting reality. It gives good texture to our behaviours.
In sum, know what we feel, why we feel it, what is to be retained, how to express what is meant for others, and many more dimensions to be as close to our true feelings as possible and say what serves the real purpose.