When emotions reign, regaining control comes but with regrets.
Self-control is the placebo when emotions get boiling.
Despite being aware of "self-control," knowing well that overreactions destroy things in order, I err.
On a few occasions, I lose my control just to force my points of view. Then, I always analyze happenings and take faults on my side, revisiting this lesson in mind.
"I can’t control others, but not controlling myself is my fault."
Years ago, I had a great learning day when I forgot the power of negative emotions and became a player in a hot discussion, coiling in directionless arguments.
It was a day of great hurt for both, pleading differently.
It was like a break in the mirror that can’t be original again.
Happily, the disruption in relationships because of that event is largely restored, and as happens, the time mostly healed it.
But words stay in memories (on both sides).
After that unpleasant day, I restarted, boosting my ability not to behave dirty even in stormy conditions.
I studied more books on "emotions" and honed how to be on the right track more intentionally. And in case of deterioration, now I prefer to leave the issue to reflect later on.
In these days, important steps for regulating my emotions are:
I have redefined my boundaries—not to be in the trap of a toxic milieu.
"True nobility is being superior to your former self," are the words of Ernest Hemingway—I have noted for my self-improvement.
Not taking everything in the frame of "winning or losing" has helped me abundantly to be within boundaries.
"All deserve respect in all situations" is a small sentence, but it carries a lot of weight while dealing with people.
We all make mistakes. People have the right to stick to what they value. These are elementary tools that remind me not to overact in any pursuit.
Change happens in stages if one is open to change. Change may not happen, as is commonly witnessed.
"If you don’t like something, change it. If you cannot change it, change your attitude." Maya Angelou.
Emotions play a crucial role both in effecting change and also in not allowing shifts in your paradigms.
When people are on different pages in understanding, emotions create space to fight. It is natural. Only deeper analysis can bring both sides to common platforms.
In a situation loaded with anxieties, fears, and insecurities, ego and supremacy create gaps in harmony and coordination. In effect, emotions get a chance and destroy the ways of reconciliation.
Negative emotions rob. It does not mean to be static. It necessitates finding reasons and acting on remedies.
It is most important how you handle your emotions. Emotions occur in listening, speaking, playing, debating, coming together, departing, and all actions in personal and professional skills.
Most of the time, you are in a hurry to conclude "who is right." It demolishes efforts for playing at one level. When you are in search of "what is right," any dispute is most likely to be settled sooner or later.
Emotions are to be addressed and not suppressed. It is a soft skill.
A trained person handles emotions efficiently without hurting anyone.
Some reflections on positive emotions:
"The most pivotal moments in people’s lives revolve around emotions. Emotions make stories powerful." Brandon Stanton
Emotions give you the power to grow.
Learning occurs when you are emotionally charged.
It is an emotion that prompts you to take failure as an opportunity to strike again more strategically.
When you are criticized, you are blamed for no fault on your part; people are not listening; it is time to respond appropriately. Then it becomes your emotional maturity.
Nevertheless, this article is restricted to separate negative emotions that do all social ills like spoiling relationships, spreading doubts, engaging in destruction, and many more.
Forthright
# Make space to focus on what matters most for getting yourself better every day.
# Be armed with authentic inputs to express your views methodically on any platform.
# Develop the ability to "pause "to have clarity and to add quality to your response.
# Ditching the habits that hold you back deserves top priority.
# Learn to forgive yourself as well as others to grab what is still not in your grip.
